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Celebrate good times

September 26, 2013 Leave a comment

You receive some wonderful, improbable, hoped-for good news. How do you celebrate?
Photographers, artists, poets: show us CELEBRATION.


For me celebrating good times means being with my family and having a nice treat or going on a picnic or to a botanical garden or even a short holiday without planning.

A celebration once a while reaffirms our belief that we are content with what we have and that we are blessed.

In my view a visit to the beach, flying a kite, playing a game with your family, watching the sunset, admiring nature,  watching the clouds, enjoying a cup of coffee, a relaxing massage at a spa, singing karaoke or watching a movie together are  the best ways to celebrate!

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The right Attitude

September 3, 2013 1 comment


Have you heard of Nick Vujicic? -He’s not a superstar athlete or international movie star.
But he is a young man whose Attitude allowed him to succeed under the most dire of circumstances.

Nick Vujicic is an internationally known motivational speaker, giving speeches all around the world on the subject of disability and hope.  He is the director of an organization, Life Without Limbs, for the physically disabled.

He has adopted the attitude of doing whatever he can to give disabled people hope for living as normal a life as they can for one reason. He was born in Australia in 1982 without any arms and legs, just a small foot with two toes protruding from his left thigh.  Nick just has a torso, a neck and a head—that’s all!

Growing up his life was filled with extreme difficulties and hardships.  Australian law prevented him from going to a normal school, but his attitude was that he belonged there.  So he wanted to prove that he could do things that would enable him to attend school.    He learned to write using two toes on his left “foot”. He also learned to use a computer and type using a “heal and toe” method.   He learned to hop around a classroom.  Australia soon changed its laws because of his story and he was one of the first disabled students to attend a normal school.

But he was bullied at school and become extremely depressed, even contemplating suicide when he was only 8 years old.  But he was able to change his Attitude toward life when he realized his accomplishments were inspirational to many other disabled people.  His mother also showed him a story on another severely disabled man and it made him realize he wasn’t the only one facing these kinds of challenges.  That Attitude made him create his non-profit Life Without Limbs organization.

Nick had the Attitude that he could be successful leading as normal a life as possible.  He graduated from college at 21 with a double major in accounting and finance.  But despite his handicap, he decided to travel the world giving motivational speeches to teenagers and other disabled people.  He has spoken to over 2 million people in 12 countries.  He also adopted the Attitude of not wanting to have people always having to help him.   So he’s learned to do a lot of the daily things a normal person can do, like answer the phone, shave, brush his teeth, comb his hair and get a glass of water.  He likes to fish, swim and play soccer in his spare time.  (And remember, he has no arms or legs!)

A deeply religious man, Nick has the Attitude that he was put on the earth to encourage and inspire others to live to their fullest potential and not let anything get in the way of accomplishing their hopes and dreams.  His goals now are to learn to drive a special car, appear on the Oprah Winfrey Show and write a book. His Attitude is that it’s only a matter of time before he achieves those goals.

Says Nick of his Attitude,  “Many would think my goals are too far-fetched. However, I believe that if you have the desire and passion to do something, you will achieve it in good time. As humans, we continually put limits on ourselves for no reason at all.  All it takes is the right attitude!”

Nick lacks many things we take for granted—like arms and legs.  What he doesn’t lack is the right Attitude to help him succeed and reach his goals.

(Source : Daily Mail, UK)

Life is not a rocket launch!

March 15, 2013 Leave a comment




10..9..8..7..6..5..4..3..2..1….Blast-off…. The rocket ship takes off into space.  Precision and accurate planning are vital for its launch into space.  Now, does our life need this much planning?

I find people who love to plan to every minute  detail , every small event, every small experience in their life.  Doesn’t that sap the fun out of our lives?  The quirky mannerisms, the failures, the jokes and impromptu behaviours make our moments fun.  Rigorous discipline into everything can lead to monotony and boredom.

It is a different thing when we set out on a big endeavour, a project, a business , en enterprise etc.  Here it is very important to look at risks, plan, organize etc so that we can arrive at our goal without making the same mistakes over and over again.

The problem with looking too much into the future is to make our plans realistic.  Instead of living in the moment and putting all our focus on the job we tend to get caught up in worries about the future.

Can you plan for a bungy jump, a free-fall, death?

Numerous other factors come into play in any event.  And that is what we under-estimate.  I have a friend who prepared very well for her exams but forgot the timing and came in to write the exam in the afternoon after the exam was over.  These events highlight the importance of everything coming together to make an event a success.  After doing our part we have to let go, and pray that things work out best.

We can live in the moment, enjoying and not getting into the nitty-gritty of everything.  Can we plan for everything?  I would like to have your thoughts

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A matter of choice

February 13, 2013 Leave a comment

The art of choosing

“I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I –
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference”

These are the concluding lines of Robert Frost’s poem – The Road not Taken.
We are presented with choices every day of our lives and our decisions lay the blueprint of our future.  So, isn’t choosing a fine art?  Do we allow our emotions to rule when we make our choices or do we go by logic?

I just finished reading a great book “The Art of Choosing” – by Sheena Iyengar.  I found this book very informative and well-researched.  It describes in great detail how culture, upbringing etc influence our everyday choices

Some choices that we encounter do not matter too much as we are not in a life/death situation.  But in life, we are presented with choices like ‘abortion’, ‘euthanasia’ etc.  Here, even consulting experts or our parents is not a solution as even after making such a choice,  we may have to live with guilt if we have not given enough thought in our decision.

The senses of children today are bombarded with videos and sound through gadgets like smartphones, tablets, televisions etc.  They are overwhelmed with media and do not have a chance to look at books and board games, unless, parents can guide them.  So is too much choice necessarily good?

In India arranged marriage is very common.  But if you tell that to a foreigner they will show be taken by surprise.  Why do we sometimes make choices against our best interests? Or are some choices driven by family, society, culture rather than one’s own interests?

Statistics does show that the success of arranged marriages is way higher than love marriage.  One reason is that, love and marriage are not the same.  And living together entails a lot of give and take!  We also find very happy couples in both type of marriages.

So is it actually advantageous to have more choices.  Does it mean we have more freedom if we have more choice or do more choices overwhelm us and make us undecisive?

The course we take can decide the future of our career.  The food we eat can decide our health.  We have a choice whether to exercise or relax.  This exciting book with numerous practical, everyday life examples  is a must-read for all of us who face the thrills and tribulations of making choices everyday.

How do you make important choices in your life?


(Sheena Iyengar holds degrees from UPenn, The Wharton School of Business, and Stanford University. She is a professor at Columbia University, and a recipient of the Presidential Early Career Award. Her work is regularly cited in periodicals as diverse as Fortune and Time magazines, the NYT and the WSJ, in books such as Blink and The Paradox of Choice.)



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December 25, 2012 3 comments

Lone spectator in the audience
Watching the movie of life unfold
Your hands keep moving
To the beat of your heart

Watching babies cry
And teenagers mature
Counting gray hairs on our heads
And the number of wrinkles on our skin

Innocent wonder is lost
To anger and vapid worry
Days, months and years pass by
As you keep a faithful watch

This game of hide and seek goes on
You think it is childs play
Time you cannot bind me
For I am fearless and free

Like a gullible fool you standby
As the body withers and dies
Well, If you think you have won the game
It is you who will be put to shame!

© copyright skm, 26th Dec, 2012


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Death – do you ever die?

July 17, 2012 16 comments

Lurking in the shadows
Casting sly, furtive glances
Treading slowly without a sound
Thief who steals precious life

Hiding behind window blinds
A cold, silent stranger
Lying in wait for the right moment
To devour his prey

With a coy smile
He takes you in his embrace
Showering kisses all over
Taking your last breath away

Writhing in pain and agony
The sick pray for him
Yet he turns a blind eye
To their fervent pleas

He acts in mysterious ways
Sometimes striking a fatal blow
With bullet wounds, blood and gore
Or taking you away in your sleep

After the job is done
He flees the crime scene
Without leaving a trace
Of his presence behind

He dances in joy
Ignorant at his folly
The heart does not beat
But the spirit lives on

Death – Are you friend or foe?
Should I love or abhor thee?
Trailing life – like a shadow
Death – Do you ever die?

© copyright skm, 17th July 2012




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Rhyme and reason

April 4, 2012 20 comments

School, office, homework, business
Projects, shopping, cooking and chores
Bogged down with the daily grind
Our lives are like one big race

Lugging overloaded school bags
A child brings home more work
Is there a time for fun and games
When lost in this timeless maze?

Caged behind office cubicles
Targets and timelines
Deals and telephone calls
The blood pressure builds

Sandwiches, noodles or pancakes
What would you like to have today?
Have you thought of your housewife?
Who cares for you like a trained waiter

Bulls and bears
Stocks and Indices
It is the economy stupid
Giving you those nightmares

Add some rhyme and reason
Replace logic with intuition
Clear that mental clutter
Add balance to your life

Spill some colour
Pen a verse
Play a game
Listen to music

An artist is a breath of fresh air
Revelling in creative freedom
Letting loose enchanting melody
The song of his soul

© copyright skm, 4th April 2012


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Priceless joys

October 1, 2011 20 comments

When turbulent storms rock your boat
And you are shaken, befuddled
Then take a pause, take a breath
And play with your child

Blow soap bubbles
And watch them fly high
Run after them
Tender, timeless  joys

Buy a chocolate, eat an icecream
Take a stroll in the park
Build a sand castle by the seaside
These are life’s priceless joys

Fly a kite, take a swim
cycle or skate
Lifes greatest lessons
Are learned through simple joys

© copyright, skm, 1st Oct 2011

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A Leader

July 6, 2011 8 comments

A leader lives a  life of purpose
Working from dawn to dusk
Serving the community
Living steadfast to ideals

Empowering the populace
Bringing education to them
A leader awakens the masses to
Truth,  courage and love

A leader  serves the needy
Cares for  the orphan
Feeds the hungry and
Clothes the destitute

Breaking  bonds of slavery
Ending years of servitude,
A leader frees society from
Fear,poverty and illusion

A leader leaves a legacy
By bringing lasting change
Knowledge breaks caged walls
A nation wakes up to freedom

© copyright skm, 6th July, 2011

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A game of chess

June 2, 2011 4 comments

Today, enjoyed a game of chess with my daughter.   She has improved and is now understanding the moves better.  Chess is a great way of unwinding and relaxing.   The object of the game is to capture the other player’s king.  When the king is checkmated,  the game is over.  The opening game, the line of defence, the middle game and the end game are important in a game of chess. Chess also has important life lessons:

  1. It is important to have a goal in mind:  The objective of the game is to capture the other players king.  It is important to focus on this goal while planning your moves
  2.  Analyse before making a decision: It is important to analyse your moves with respect to the position of the opponents pieces before executing a move.  Every possibility has to be weighed and the outcome has to be analysed. This teaches us to be patient and not to be too hasty when making important choices.
  3. Live according to your core values:  In chess it helps to develop and centralize your pieces to give you an advantage.  This is akin to our core values in life by which we live.
  4. Independence: Chess teaches children to become independent in making decisions.  They have to plan and think on every move.
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