Day 23 — Allowing another person to fully love me means I must…

 

 

I will try to be open and sincere and not withhold anything in the relationship. There is no room for any kind of secrecy. And I must be ready to accept the other person for what they really are.

I have to be willing to share responsibilities, joys and sorrows in our relationship. Also, I must guard against my ego getting in the way so that there is always a give and take and the trust is always maintained.

We are all humans and we have imperfections – so there is bound to be friction in any relationship. The important thing is trust and understanding to communicate with each other and our belief that ups and downs will not rock our boat.

The main thing that matters is love. And everything else is just an experience!

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Day 22 — Allowing another person to fully love me means they must…

Well, I believe that we cannot put any conditions on love. Love is free, it is not binding, and love is more about letting go.

I wouldn’t restrict anyone from loving me. After all there is so much hate, anger, jealousy and bad emotions in the world that if each of us can spread a little love everyday, this world would be a far better place!

How another person or the world perceives me is not within my control. What is within my control is how I perceive myself and the world around me. If I am confident about myself and wish the best for everyone then I am sure that most people will also love me!

So, I would try my best to do atleast one good deed everyday – smile, do my job with love  and keep my family happy!

Holi

Blossoming flowers and fresh greens
Welcome Spring – the season of joy
Shedding all inhibitions
People step out into the open

Water pistols in hand
Colour packets in pockets
Holi unfolds in the streets
A riot of colours

A time to bond
To smile, to hug
Colour each other
Like kids in gay abandon

The crowds break into dance
Holi Hai, Holi Hai
Vibrant joy and emotion
Wipe off tears and distress

Painted in colours of love
All look the same
An atmosphere of frolic
And a feeling of oneness

© copyright skm, 8th March 2012

Mother

In my dreams
From a world yonder
You still appear
With all the answers

Holding twilight in your hands
You wake me up
To a new dawn
Of beauty and wonder

You watched me grow
Like a ray of hope
And put me to sleep
With divine kisses

Caring eyes reflect
Sacrifice and concern
Words unspoken
Convey everything

O Mother! O Angel!
From the kingdom of love
Showering grace upon me
O Star!  in the sky

© copyright skm, 21st Jan 2012

(http://promisingpoetsparkinglot.blogspot.sg/2012/09/the-perfect-poet-award-week-72.html)

As you sow so shall you reap

Sow a seed in fertile soil
Nurture it with care
And watch the plant grow
All life starts from a seed
Tender and fragile
The seed is the source of ife

Sow the thoughts of love in your mind
Directed to a higher ideal
And let not greed, anger and jealousy
Defile this sacred chamber
Widen your vision
From family to community
From nation to the world

Sow the habit of perseverance
Focussing on the task at hand
And let not obstacles
Digress you from your goal
Offer your work to that ideal
Accepting the fruits of labour with love

Sow the values of truth and honesty
In every sphere of your life
And let not greed
Stray you from your steadfast beliefs
As you sow
So shall you reap

© copyright skm, 10th July, 2011

True beauty

( http://promisingpoetscafe.wordpress.com/2011/07/31/the-perfect-poet-award-for-week-49/)

A pure mind
Discerning and dissecting
Living in a world of forms and shapes
Still revels in the true essence
Beauty in truth

When beyond mere looks
Your presence enlivens
Brings meaning to my life
A feeling  unexplained
Beauty in love

A child at play
Looking, touching, querying
Lost
In wonder
Beauty in innocence

The artist looks at his canvas
And it becomes his world
Everything else turns to nought
A flourish of colours and strokes
Lost in creation
Beauty in work

This universe infinite
Defying all imagination
All we can do is surrender
In awe, In admiration
Praying for inspiration
Beauty in devotion

© copyright skm, 21st May, 2011

Spoil the rod and spare the child

Those sparkling eyes,| that charming smile
That look full of love
You cast a spell on everyone
Innocence – you are a child

When you are angry at your child or still worse spank them – have you ever looked into their eyes?
I have seen the look in my child’s eyes when I was angry – and I have decided never to use the cane on my child.

Corporal punishment on a child can dent his/her self-esteem and confidence. Caning can create resentment and rebellion in a child. It can terrify a child. A child who grows up seeing violence at home and also being subject to caning grows up with the notion that it is acceptable for the strong to use force against the weak. Such children when they grow up have higher likelihood of becoming aggressive towards their siblings, their classmates and their own children.

Children learn most of their behaviours through imitation of their parents.  Parents are their role model – an example of what is right and good.  They look for love and attention to their parents.

More often than not we hit our children when we are in a bad mood and not because they have done anything wrong.  Anger is nothing but blocked desire.  In such an angry mood, when your child comes and asks you an innocent question – we vent our anger on the kids.

Then how do we discipline our child:

Firstly, we have to set ground rules- they have to understand what is acceptable and unacceptable behaviour

Secondly,  it is very important to communicate regularly with your child.  They have to understand why they are not allowed to do certain things.  As they grow older they develop assertiveness.  This is a good sign and should not be only viewed as disobedience.

Some parents ask for blind acceptance from children.  This does not nurture confidence and sets a poor example.A child who is always being ordered about is not going to develop the confidence  to think and reason for themselves at school and at home.

Next, we have to lead by example – You cant tell your child to stop watching TV while you are happily sitting in front of the idiot box all day.

Use positive language  – Instead of saying – Dont do that or stop doing that – we could use positive language like : I need you to  or I expect you to

Focus on the behaviour not the child.  Children should understand that they are being punished for their behaviour and not because you don’t like them

Dont take away their dignity – Show respect for the child.  Make sure you address the problem behaviour rather than attacking the character of the child

Let us not destroy that innocent spark that budding creativity.  Let us create an environment for our children by which they will develop into confident, creative and well-rounded personalities able to contribute to society.

Love is in the air

When there is music in the wind
And butterflies flirt with flowers
When time comes to standstill
Then I know love is in the air

When blades of grass dance
And dew drops glisten on leaves
When birds sing in chorus
Then I know love is in the air

 

 

When there is radiance in the moons glow
And  magic in the stars twinkle
When clouds pour ethereal rain
Then I know love is in the air

When there is a spring in your step
And a smile on your face
When you are at a loss for words
Then I know love is in the air

When two hearts beat as one
And tears and laughter play
The divine song of the soul
Then I know love is in the air

© copyright skm February 11th, 2011